Monday, 17 March 2008

FOOLISH MEN and other stories..

I had an interesting chat with some guy online the other day. It is true that i have known this guy for a while now and once upon a time(when i was young and naive) i might have liked him a little(he also was not married then and did not have any children). However, time waits for no man and things changed, I moved and realised that plane was not gonna fly. Anyway the conversation went something like this:

Foolish man: Ahn ahn beautiful soul, you never respond to me anymore.
Beautiful Soul: Oh hello foolish man, long time. Whats gud?
FM: I asked you to come to Paris with me and you said no.
BS:(who was tired and in no mood for rubbish). I feel so sorry for your wife foolish man.
FM: what do you mean?
BS: you are a married man with a family. How can you be making such proposals to me. And your poor wife is sitting at home with the children. And i am sure I am not the only one you make sure proposals to. I mean seriously, the other time you asked me to go to new york with you while your wife was in LA. I feel very bad for your family.( In other words, you are a shameless good for nothing human being who knows better than to prey on a young girl like me)
FM: Whatever, that gives you no reason to be running your mouth anyhow?
BS: running my mouth? Just because i am telling you the truth.


Of course at this point MR. foolish man decides the conversation was over and does not say anything else.
This brings me to my point. Is this not a reflection on me and the way people see me? Why is it that they make sure propositions to me? Do they see or know something about me that makes them bold enough to think i am one useless girl with or morals? What the fuck do i look like? SERIOUSLY?

This is not the only man. Another one too was in the states with his fiancee and then asks if he can stop by in london to see me because he still wants me( that is to say, he wants to have sex with me o..which is what he said in least subtle way). I dont know what gave him the impression that i was some kind of sex goddess that is worth flying across the ocean for.

Anyways, moving on...
I went home to london for the weekend to see my father who happens to be in the country. I went out for drinks when i got home and didn't get back till late. Anyway, i wake up in the morning only to hear the voice of a woman coming from my father's room. I am thinking, hmmm, that sounds nothing like any of my step mothers and on that note i tried to go back to bed. BUT, THEY JUST WONT SHUT UP. So decided to make my self useful and started cleaning the house. The woman then comes into the bathroom i was cleaning and looks shocked to see me. "Ahh beautiful soul, mi o mo pe o wa around, ni gba wo lo de?" (beautiful soul, i didnt know you were around, when did you get back). SEE ME SEE TROUBLE. EEE WA GBAMI?( SAVE ME O). Who in the world are you? what is your business whether i am around or not, as far i know you are not wife number twenty something and i do not owe u any explanations. ABI?( please understand none of these words came out of my mouth, they just stayed in the pretty little head they were being thought).....

Anyways, the reason i mention this little random story is that i think what people know about my father affects the way people see his children. ABI, why else will idiotic fools decide they can make stupid propositions and expect me to accept. like father like daughter, no be so?

I saw an old friend the other day and i was so embarassed, she was so happy to inform me(in front of other people) that my very married brother, with the most beautiful family was having an affair with someone she knew. IMAGINE. Pls, who should i blame but my father( of course my brother too). The lack of morals is obviously genetic and now the thought of being married just does not do it for me at all. I refused to be caught in this cycle. WHY IN THE WORLD DO PEOPLE GET MARRIED IF THEY CAN NOT BE FAITHFUL? At least if you are not married, it is easy for you to just break it off without the complications of a divorce and the children being torn apart? KI LO DE? na by force?

this post could go on forever. I have serious studying to do.

xx

8 comments:

NaijaScorpio said...

All this talk of married men fooling around makes me fear getting married even more.

I don't think you should even blame urself for what some grown man choses to do. Even if you dressed like a nun, that would not stop them from talking to u. So just carry on being urself.

I don't think cheating on ur wife or fooling around is genetic. Ur brother is only doing what he thinks is okay to do esp since ur father was such a good example.
Men!

Jinta said...

beautiful soul, i'm certain it is not genetic, but may i suggest that if you are to keep married male friends, you make sure you know their wives? when you do not know their wives, the average man will take as a tacit acknowledgemt of a potential relationship

beautiful soul said...

thanks mr.jinta, i know its not genetic but i am very aware that your environment plays a huge role in the person you become.
I didn't even know the fool was married until i read about it in the papers(lol, he is kinda a mini celeb). He kept trying to date me but i wasn't interested and then i found out he was married anyway.

Thanks Sting, i know it is not genetic but my twisted family has affected me in too many ways to count. These stupid men, God forgive them (NOT LIKE WOMEN ARE THAT DIFFERENT THOUGH).

soupasexy said...

MEN!!! y did God create such(i dont even know what to call them) creatures sef?

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

Ah, when I was talking about polygamy and dared to mention some of the consequences of the practice, you should have seen the firestorm that i stepped into with comments left and right. I personally think that unless you come from a family where polygamy was practiced, you cannot understand the serious negative issues that it creates for the children affected.

Anyway, I don't think that there is anything about you in particular that encourages married/committed men to flock to you. That practice is just one that is pervasive around the world. So, please, do not think it is a reflection of you. Your name isn't beuatiful soul for nothing, is it?

lol!

I enjoyed reading this. Will retrace my steps and return to read an update. Take care.


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Thirty + said...

First time here.

I could not help but feel sorry for you sha :). Eh ya I can only imagine how you are coping.

It is not genetic o, it's more of a family stronghold if you know what I mean.

Your own case will be and is different.

ibiluv said...

any unfaithful person just wants to be unfaithful

i dont see people jumping off a bridge or running in front a truck

rethots said...

...no matter how smooth (he feels), a foolish man will always exhibit his trait.
...no matter how courteous (he acts), a foolish man with always dis-honour his wife.

No 'tis no you, 'tis just the 'foolish' men, exhibiting their traits.